tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9024472412978507820.post7243576151166084200..comments2023-10-07T09:40:51.521-04:00Comments on Single Mom by Choice or Circumstance: Meanest MomMama Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11731917736362150072noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9024472412978507820.post-38405461464024131002010-03-02T01:03:30.372-05:002010-03-02T01:03:30.372-05:00Damn! Go you! I'm very proud of you! Also, can...Damn! Go you! I'm very proud of you! Also, can you teach me to be a mean mommy? I think I'm too much of a push over. <br /><br />Although I did have to be mean to Nae when she asked if she could walk down to the park to hang out with her friends. I didn't mind her going down there, but didn't feel comfortable with her walking there by herself. She got over it eventually, but she wasn't happy with our compromise. Oh well...gotta do what we gotta do, right?<br />*HUGS*Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9024472412978507820.post-4358576325320137602010-03-01T17:08:38.061-05:002010-03-01T17:08:38.061-05:00Well, sometimes you gotta put your foot down and d...Well, sometimes you gotta put your foot down and dish-out some tough love for the betterment of everybody. As long as Mia and T live under your roof, they abide by YOUR rules as you see fit. There can be NO arguing that principle, especially when you are legally responsible for them both. If something goes wrong and authorities get involved, the buck stops with you. I do respect the fact that you are making decisions that you know are right, and are completely unapologetic about it. That's the way it should be.<br /><br />As far as T baby sitting three small children all by herself, I think you've got the makings of the perfect Molotov cocktail in that scenario, and with possible consequences that could have been both irrevocable and irreversible. I'm glad you said no to that request and yet you were still generous enough with the counter offer of bringing them over to your house. Your proposal was turned down which - with all due respect to T - tells me that there is something about that entire arrangement that T isn't telling you about.<br /><br />When I was a boy, my mom was no different than you are now. She was very responsible (out of love for us) and told us "no" even as we pouted and threw one tantrum after another. Her philosophy: Better you cry now than I cry later. <br /><br />So no terrible incidents that I can recall from my youth involving a pernicious, rebellious attitude. I once did get caught sneaking a girl out of my house, and that's all I'll say about that:0)Tom in Vegashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17821971426359725229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9024472412978507820.post-3077172338852045082010-03-01T13:07:12.160-05:002010-03-01T13:07:12.160-05:00I, for one, think you did the right thing. You gav...I, for one, think you did the right thing. You gave her plenty of options, and that was more than you needed to do IMHO. She's a teenager and unless you let her do everything she wants to do, then your going to have days like this. But it is important for her to know that she isn't going to get everything she wants... that's just life! <br /><br />It's a shame that she used this as a reason to not do anything toward her ACT's, but hey, she's only hurting herself... and maybe that lightbulb will come on soon :)<br /><br />As for little M, well she is probably just testing you as well. And thankfully, she won't hold a grudge nearly as long as T ;)<br /><br />xxoohobbyhungryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00431999914180502287noreply@blogger.com