Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Adoption stories

If you are ever like me, you'll be tempted to go out and looks up adult adoptee stories on the web. All I can say is... don't.do.it. Man, can that be depressing. Every time I do, I get overly worried that Mia is some day going to hate me. :( I mean, if she does... she does. I can't do anything about that now, except to try to be the best Mom I can be, regardless...

There are so many sad stories out there. I wish I could find some more positive ones... with older adoptees. I know there are some bad reasons why people were taken from their first families... birth families... "natural" (i don't like that term so much...makes me feel like I'm somehow un-natural...?)

I digress.

I know that there have been instances where adoptees are taken from their first mothers and sold. Where the bio-mother is wanting to mother their own child, but because of society she can't... due to being a single woman (of all things). Where people guilt, cajole, put down... bio moms until they sign the papers. Then there are those that made an 'adoption plan'. And still others who can't have more than one and are forced/cajoled/feared into abandoning their babies.

This is all a big issue. And the issue is how are our children going to grow up and feel whole and not scarred because of it. I don't have the answers. Just more qustions.

I thank God every day that I am a SINGLE mother able to adopt a child. Whether or not I'm looked down upon is other people's issue. I have no control over how others feel. Just how I do.


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